The rules of baby shower etiquette are forever changing and being modified, but there are some rules that you should still follow. Here are some of the basic rules of baby shower etiquette:
~Who should host the shower? Traditionally, close friends hosted baby showers. It is, however, becoming more common to see family members hosting the event. These days, the rule is: If you want to throw a baby shower: Go ahead!
~Men: This is always a great debate. Should fathers be invited to the shower. In older days, the answer was NO. These days, it isn't uncommon to hose a shower for both mom and dad - which is also a great time! Fathers enjoy opening presents and being involved. So, the answer is YES! if you want to host a shower for both mommy and daddy, feel free! Try to think of foods and activities that both men and women would enjoy.
~Invitations: If you don't have the money to send out personalized, photo invitations, don't stress! These days, many baby shower invitations are sent over the internet or by the telephone. While pretty pink, blue or green invitations are always a great idea, don't stress about them!
~Timing is everything: Traditional baby shower etiquette usually says that the baby shower should be held 1-2 months before the baby is due. These days, it is held ANY TIME during your pregnancy (usually after you find out the sex of the baby). Many mommies-to-be are thrown several baby showers from friends, family and co-workers. If you'd like to follow tradition, be sure to plan this baby fiesta 1-2 months before the actual due date.
~Baby Registry: Baby shower etiquette used to say that registries were "rude". It wasn't considered polite to ask your guests for specific guests. These days, you'll RARELY attend a shower without a registry. Go for it! Your guests can't read minds and if you have specific items in mind, you can certainly suggest them!
~Thank You Cards: While most baby shower traditions have been modified, this is one rule that you can't bend. You absolutely must send out thank you notes or cards to all of your guests. They helped celebrate the upcoming birth of your child so it's the least that you can do! When opening gifts, be sure to have a friend or family member jot down the name of the gift giver as well as the actual gift. This way you can remember what to say in each thank-you card.
~Favors: Part of good baby shower etiquette is making sure that the guests have fun. After all, they deserve to have a little fun as payment for the great gift that they are giving. What you give the guests does not matter so much as the fact that you should give something. Be sure to have plenty of food and good drinks at the shower. You can send each guest home with an additional party favor as well. You can also have some lovely gifts as prizes for baby shower games.
~Second Baby Shower? Many older women will tell you that you shouldn't have a second baby shower for another child. It is, however, perfectly acceptable these days! Go ahead and celebrate a second baby - especially if it is a different gender!